Dear Love Lawyer,
I didn’t know if you were the right person to reach out to, but I figured you might have some helpful advice. You see, I’ve been burned badly by my ex-husband. Our marriage fell apart over time, and divorce was inevitable. I know many people go through bad divorces, but mine is a trickier situation than most because my ex-husband is a divorce lawyer!
I really got the short end of the stick with this one, and I don’t know what to do. Not only am I heartbroken, but I’m being completely put through the wringer when it comes to the legal process. Sometimes, I wish I had married his friend, who’s an Indianapolis car accident attorney instead. Anyway, how am I supposed to handle this nightmare of a situation? Thankfully, we don’t have kids, but I truly can’t take any more of this hurt, drama, and anger.
I know you can’t help me with the logistics of my situation, Love Lawyer, but can you give me advice on how to emotionally get through this tough time?
Looking for the light at the end of the tunnel…
Dear Lawyer’s Ex-Wife,
Being a lawyer myself, I understand how ruthless we can be, especially when we’re trying to mask our feelings of pain with anger. I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time in your life right now. Although it’s a cliché to say, there truly will be a light at the end of this dark tunnel you’re currently in. As hard as it seems right now, the anger will dissipate, time will heal, and you’ll find happiness once the divorce is over. I hope hearing that brings you some comfort and peace of mind.
In the meantime, however, I encourage you to approach your ex-husband with a calm demeanor. Lawyers are a tricky breed, and it’s best not to engage in their behavior or antagonize them. If he acts immature and angry during the divorce, keep your composure. Maybe talk to him and let him know that you understand he’s hurt and that you also feel that the situation is unfortunate. If you can get him to break down his walls a little, he may open up and show a softer side.
Divorces are hard for everyone, and many men and women will put up walls during this time. Unfortunately, when divorcing a divorce lawyer, they have other tricks up their sleeve to use against you. You must use your own tricks to combat his, including unexpected acts of kindness.
Good luck through the tunnel, Lawyer’s Ex-Wife. Once you’re out of the tunnel, you’ll be exposed to the light and will be a Lawyer’s Ex-Wife no more!
All my best,